Imagine this: you interview for a job, receive a rejection, and later spot the same position reposted online. Confused? Frustrated? You’re not alone. Here's a breakdown of what's happening and how to turn the situation in your favor.
When an employer does this, it's a rejection of you. I'm going to be brutally honest. For this particular role, they have decided that you're not a fit and they don't want to get into great detail and give you critical feedback for fear of saying the wrong thing. It's easier for them just to give you a generalized rejection.
In that moment when you get the rejection, what you need to do is respond back, but I'm going to give you a pro tip: don't ask for feedback. I know everybody wants to get it, and people say to me all the time, "I went on the interview. I deserve that feedback." You don't. And they don't want to have that awkward conversation with you. But there is something that you can do instead...
What's Going On?
When a company rejects you, it means—at least for that role—you weren’t the right fit. They may not provide detailed feedback because:
- They don’t want to risk saying something that could be taken the wrong way.
- Giving feedback can lead to uncomfortable conversations.
While it may feel unfair, this generalized rejection is often their way of avoiding conflict.
How To Respond Gracefully
Instead of demanding feedback or letting frustration show, use this as an opportunity to leave a positive impression. Respond to the rejection email with a professional, classy message:
"Thank you for letting me know. While I’m disappointed, I’m glad you found the right candidate. I truly admire your company and would love to stay on your radar for future opportunities. Could you share the best way for me to be proactive in staying connected?"
This approach demonstrates emotional maturity, professionalism, and a long-term perspective. It says, “I get it. I respect your decision, but I’d like to build a relationship with your organization.”
What If They Don’t Respond?
Most of the time, they will respond. But if you don’t hear back, don’t take it personally. Remember:
- A single rejection doesn’t define your potential fit with the company.
- Often, recruiters handle the process but may not fully understand your qualifications or how they align with other roles.
This is where many job seekers make the mistake of giving up. Instead, take control of the situation.
The Power Of Backchanneling
One of the best strategies is "backchanneling." This involves connecting with employees at the company—beyond the recruiter—and building relationships that can open doors. Here’s how:
- Network Strategically: Reach out to current employees via LinkedIn or professional networks.
- Engage Thoughtfully: After establishing rapport, mention your interest in a newly posted role.
- Ask for Insight: Say something like: "I’m excited about the [role name] I saw reposted. Based on your experience at [company], what’s one piece of advice you’d offer to help me stand out in the application process?”
This shows initiative, respect for their expertise, and a genuine interest in the company.
Why This Works
When you bypass automated systems and connect directly with employees, you stand out. At Work It DAILY, we’ve seen candidates initially rejected by applicant tracking systems later hired after using backchanneling to reach the hiring manager.
Recruiters sometimes miss qualified candidates. By proactively networking, you ensure you’re not overlooked again.
A Final Word Of Encouragement
Rejection stings, but it’s not the end. Understanding what’s happening behind the scenes and leveraging tools like backchanneling can transform how you approach job opportunities.
Need help mastering these techniques? Work It DAILY offers a 7-day free trial of our career coaching program to help you navigate the job market and land a better-paying job. If this article resonated with you, take advantage of this opportunity to gain the skills and confidence to outshine your competition.
Every rejection is a chance to learn and grow. One person in that one moment decided you weren't moving forward. Let's find other people for you to talk to through backchanneling.
Good luck! Go get 'em.
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